Abby

Having been in business since 2004, many of the animals that I started caring for as puppies, kittens and young animals are now grey, slow and no longer see or hear very well. A large number of them have also passed away.

I was introduced to Alfred and Abby, a Cocker Spaniel and Black Lab, respectively, back in 2006. During the late part of 2013, we said good-bye to Alfred; just a few months later, we were suddenly forced to say good-bye to Abby.

Their mom, Misty Goldman, shared her story of Alfred’s life with her in Pet Tails Magazine. Below she describes her life with Abby.

As pet sitters we often come to love your animals almost as much as you do. In addition to a cat and a dog that share my bed at night, I feel I have dozens of other cats and dogs that are also mine — they just don’t live with me. Over the years I started to take pictures of all “my animals” and use them as my computer’s screen saver. The picture that accompanies Misty’s article is one I took during the very last set of visits I made to Abby last May. I never imagined it would be my last picture of her.


 

Fabulous Abby the Labby
2002 – 2014

By Misty Goldman

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You took the sun with you when you left us.  It rained for days after we said good-bye and even when the rain stopped, the sky stayed a cold slate gray that reflected back the emptiness in our hearts.  It’s such a struggle to write these words, to acknowledge that you’re gone, to accept the void but I have to let you go.

You were such a beauty in your shiny black fur.  Attitude and stubbornness just like a teenager.  You had an angel’s face and a devils mind.  Your mischievous streak was legendary.  From digested checks, shoes and couches, nothing was safe from your jaws as your stealthy 90 lb body would tip-toe behind me.  On our first meeting you sent me home with only one shoe, a clear message that I was treading on your territory.  But I came back the next day and the next and the day after that.  You lost interest in my shoes and you became my shadow, my buddy, my clean-up crew.  Crumbs falling to the floor never had a chance.  A lover of vegetables and the nemesis of toilet paper, you probably thought Abby was your last name since it was frequently preceded by words that can’t be printed here.

Friends and dog people always offered the same advice; “…don’t worry, Labs calm down after about five years”.  Ha!  You were not a dog to be categorized!  I think you were seven years old when you stole the sandwich from that poor guy walking down the street in front of our house.  Nine or maybe 10 when you ran away to the school and got beat up by the neighborhood dog bullies.  And the toilet paper caper went on every chance you got for 12 years!  I’m so glad you defied the stereotypes.  I’m so thankful that you were Abby.

I can still see you there, rolling in the grass with pure joy on your face.  You would always stay just out of sight.  Always seeing me but making me look to find you.  That vision of our happy, loveable pup is all we have left of you now.  I look at that patch of grass everyday and it lifts my spirits.  It made you blissfully happy even when you were in pain.  Now your pain is gone and with it our hearts but the grass is still green so we sit there in your favorite spot, missing you but smiling.  I smile because I bet that you can still see me, even though I can’t see you.

You died just like you lived, on your terms.  It was Abby’s world and the sun and the moon and the stars would bend to your will.  And so would I…every time.  I miss you shadow.

 

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Make a List

The large, sad brown eyes of our golden retriever turned to look at me. In that moment, I had my answer.

In early November 2003, we received news that our 11-year old golden retriever Jake had an aggressive form of cancer. We had noticed a lump on the side of his nose that had grown large in a short amount of time. In addition, he had begun to experience nosebleeds. In all other ways Jake appeared and acted normal. This past January 20th was the ten-year anniversary of Jake’s death. The memory of that day is as clear to me as if it were yesterday.

Jake, Baxter and author

Jake, Baxter and author

It was a frigidly cold day, very windy, but beautifully sunny. The cold air helped Jake breathe more easily because the tumors had broken into his nasal cavity. Though I did not want him outside, I let him go when he asked. After about thirty minutes, I went looking for him from within the house by peering through the windows. I discovered him lying next to a Rhododendron bush in front of the large dining room windows. The bush was protecting him from much of the wind and so I let him remain as I stood watching him.

The maple tree in our front yard was always full of birds, and on that particular day it was especially crowded. I watched Jake for a long time as he watched the birds coming and going from the tree branches. His head would turn slightly to allow him to continue gazing at them as they disappeared into the sky. I had never before seen him lay in that spot nor had I ever seen him watch the birds so intently.

I was transfixed watching him, looking so peaceful, lost in my thoughts of what we were about to have to do. Then quite slowly, he turned and stared at me through the window. In all likelihood I had moved, but it was so strange because at that same moment, I was asking myself if we were really doing the right thing. His turn to stare back at me was in a way his answer – yes. It was as if he knew what was happening and what I was thinking.

As pet owners, we are often faced with life and death decisions of our animal family members. I am very grateful that early in Jake’s life we had found a veterinarian in whom we had great confidence. More importantly, we had found a man in whose compassionate company we were comfortable sharing those most painful of moments.

I am also grateful for a pet sitter Melissa Bensen who had quietly suggested after learning the news that my husband and I come up with an objective and very specific list of ways in which we would know it was Jake’s time to go. Though it was painful when we discussed the issue – for Jake was then happy following his usual pattern of begging for food, chasing popcorn tossed on the floor, and wanting to go for rides in the truck — we did create a list. Melissa’s reasoning was that towards the end we would be too emotional to be objective. She was right.

When Jake no longer stuck his nose in our lap at the sound of a fork scratching on an empty plate, or wagged his tail in anticipation of a ride in the truck, we knew his quality of life was gone. He died quickly in our arms, in less than 25 seconds.

As a pet owner, look objectively at your beloved dog, cat, bird, hamster, etc. Understand what it is in their lives that make them happy and comfortable – how do they define quality. Make sure you the owner are comfortable with your veterinarian. He or she will be there at one of the most painful times of your life. Most of all cherish that pet each and every day. Make time in your often overly busy schedule to be with them, to enjoy them. Sadly one of nature’s greatest gifts to us, is taken from us much too quickly.

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Cats Just Must Scratch!

Why do cats scratch?

Many people assume it is to sharpen their claws, but it is actually vital to the health and well being of the animal. When very young, it aids in the development of his skeletal and muscular structure. Throughout their lives, cats continue to scratch in order to stretch the muscles and ligaments in the toes and feet, as well as to stretch their bodies and to strengthen and tone their muscles.

Cats also do it to mark their territory. There are scent glands on their paws and when they scratch, they leave their own special scent. Territory marking is also visual. What you see as torn and tattered is your cat’s way of visually marking her area. And, a cat’s claws are covered with an outer sheathing that needs to be rubbed or pulled away from the claw, which scratching will do. In addition to these healthy and logical reasons, it just feels good!

The first step to dealing with the problem is to accept the fact that your cat just must scratch. The trick is to stop her scratching the newly upholstered furniture. Enticing your cat to use a scratching post is the ideal solution.

A good scratching post must be tall enough for your cat to fully extend her body. Some experts suggest at least 28 inches. It must also be heavy enough or secured to prevent it from toppling over. Your cat won’t use it if it wobbles. There are a variety of items on the market and you may need to experiment to find one that your cat likes. A log from the woodpile might be the perfect solution.
Cat with scratching post
Initially, you may not be able to hide the scratching post in an unobtrusive spot of the room. It needs to be where your cat likes to be and if that’s in the formal dining room, then that is where it has to be – at least at the start of your training.

You may also need several scratching posts. The money you invest on multiple, well-constructed posts will be far less than the price of new carpeting. Place the posts in the spots your cat already considers his territory – at the corner of the sofa and/or the lounge chair, near the living room drapes, wherever. You can move them later, once the posts have become her territory. But then move it only a short distance. Some suggest move it by only 3 inches at a time. Eventually, you will get it into that inconspicuous corner.

Cats like to scratch when they wake up. Keep one near your cat’s bed, or your bed, if that happens to be one and the same.

You will need to persuade your cat to use the posts. Try rubbing catnip on them or giving your cat her favorite treat whenever she uses one of the posts — but only when she uses the post. You could also leave some of her toys near the post and when you see her using it, reward her –and yourself — by spending a little play time with her.

Cats don’t like citrus odors and you might want to try putting a bowl of citrus potpourri near the pieces of furniture that you are trying to discourage your feline from scratching. You can also dissuade her from scratching the furniture or carpeting by covering them with double-sided sticky tape, aluminum foil, or sheets of sandpaper.

It is going to take time to retrain your cat, especially if you are dealing with an older feline with well-established habits. Physical punishment will not work and it will make your cat fearful of you. You may use a water spray bottle to discourage your cat when you catch him scratching inappropriate items.

Trimming a cat’s nails will not discourage your cat from scratching. But you should clip off the sharp tips of the claws on her front feet every two weeks or so. This helps prevent them from becoming snagged in carpets and fabrics, or being painful when she takes a playful swat at you.

Declawing a cat is NOT the solution. “Declawing is a procedure whereby a veterinarian amputates the end digit and claw of a cat’s paws—similar in scope to cutting off a person’s finger at the last joint. The Humane Society of the United States opposes declawing when done solely for the convenience of the owner. Scratching is a natural behavior for cats and can be directed to appropriate items. “ (www.hsus.org)

In addition, declawing a cat causes other problems: personality changes (extreme shyness or aggression) and refusal to use a litter box. After declawing, pain in the toes can cause changes to a cat’s normal gait, which eventually can cause stiffness and pain in their legs, hips, and spine.

When you decide to share your life with a cat, be aware that cat scratching is both natural and healthy for your feline companion. Be prepared to work with your pet to channel her scratching appropriately. Remember – cats just must scratch!

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